Plenty Of Fish: Look Away, I’m Hideous!
October 26, 2008
Or at least I’m hideous according to the voting poll which tallies the scores for my “Plenty of Fish” mug-shot…
[DISCLAIMER: this is not a "boo-hoo" pity post, it's simply a possible assessment of what this means (seriously, I have come to grips with my appearance, and I feel lucky given what's out there)]
..So I didn’t even know this field existed until I stumbled upon it today. I tried to capture the screen-shot of the poll (see: voting ), but here’s the statistical summary:
-So…of the men in my typical age bracket (aged 26 to 32), I’m about a 4 out of 10. Let me repeat, a FOUR out of ten! That’s not just two guys who think I’m a freak, that’s twenty-one votes in total.
-On a slightly more encouraging level, men aged 33 to 40 find me agreeable, with an average 7 out of 10 rating (out of twenty-eight votes).
-But then my agreeability drops again, with men over forty thinking I’m a 5 out of 10
So what am I to take from this?
Well first, I haven’t rated guys on the website myself, but when I typically consider a “scoring scale”, everything below a “six” involves a bad combination of sweat/body hair/skin folds.
And also, I toss out celebrities from the equation, ’cause if they happened to be in the running, no normal guy would ever eclipse a 5 out of 10 (sorry but it’s true).
But how does this work for guys? Do they automatically toss out the “official models”? What’s their idea of a “ten out of ten”? This doesn’t mean I’m delusional enough to aspire for a perfect rating, or even a “nine” or an “eight” to be honest….but a FOUR? If I had my dead twin’s fetus attached to my neck, then maybe I could see it, but even then you could learn to love me.
So here it is: if I’m searching for a guy in this online pool, and I’m viewed as borderline repulsive, is this the kind of pool I should be wading around in?
That’s my parting thought for the day, but as a final word: I understand that maybe the nice guys don’t even rate the pictures. With that in mind, anyone I’ve emailed so far has turned out to be a freak, a pig, or as boring as my sister (one guy asked me to never cut my hair…he likes it long he says…okaayy).
Maybe it’s time to ease my way back into three-dimensions…we’ll see.
PS: and if I ever decided to try things out in ”lesbian-world”, the poll wouldn’t help me either, ’cause the chicks only think I’m a 5 out of 10…
Interesting results, though four seems way too low for you, should be at least a seven across the board. I think that the guys who do the voting a really voting on the sex appeal of a particular picture, rather than a friendly face shot. For instance, pics where the girl has a bikini or is showing some good cleavage will almost always rate very high regardless of general beauty… uhh, I know, us men are pretty superficial in this regard…
I wonder if it might be worth it to test out different pictures to see how they compare in ratings. Just a thought:)
Come on! Those numbers are crazy. It just shows that the guys that are trolling around that site are looking for a total knockout(aka- outta their league). I don’t know you very well and I have never seen you in person but your pictures look good and you have a killer personality, which does bleed through into your writing. WTF?! You need to worry less about lame stats. I think you should actually ditch p.o.f. Eh, but then you wouldn’t be able to write about shit like this. Either way…you are not a beast! I would give you at least a 7 or 8 and I don’t have much basis except for our writing connection.
Oh Romi Romi Romi!
Those “Plenty of Fish” people can go take a flying fuck!
Obviously you are TOTAL 10! But hey, I’m just using you to get to your dead twin’s fetus on your neck! I’ve always been a sucker for “borderline repulsive”!
oh jeebus, romi . . i think you’re at least a …. ummm .. like a 12.7 or so. you’re hot. in a totally non-lesbian kinda way
I haven’t seen all of the photos, but I can say that in flannel PJs you are a dead-solid 9.
Those people are idiots for a more accurate accessment you can always try beersex.net.
Romi,
Don’t take this the wrong way, because you know I think you’re hot, but that is not the best picture of you. I’ve seen much better on your site. Change the pic and show some cleavage….it adds a good 2 to 3 points based on research on Hot or Not.
These ppl are obviously jealous of ur gorgeous skin, shiny hair and cheeky smile and are looking to tear you down. Boo to them and their webbed toes.
That. Is. Ridiculous. This picture is dandy, and I think rating it as a four is just silly. My guess is that all these guys are looking for blond bikini girls. Screw ‘em.
Wait wait wait. Is THAT the picture you used?
Come on! Guys can’t rate a girl very high without knowing what’s “down low.”
There’s more to a hot chic than a pretty face. Show off your assets and see if it comes out any better.
I can’t figure that rating at all. But then again, I’m already in the demographic that gives you a 7 average. (And I’d agree with that assessment!)
Maybe the younger guys are sufficiently jaded by the internet that they’re holding out for topless pics?
Rom Rom! That isn’t exactly the greatest picture out there, the lighting in that photo is all wrong…
I’ve seen pictures of you on here that look significantly better than the one you posted just now.
However, most guys are jackasses who’s idea of a perfect 10 beauty is usually dictated by the latest issue of Maxim or Playboy. So unless Dead Conjoined Fetus Monthly has a centerfold, you won’t rate a 10 on those jackasses’ radar. Take those results lightly!
You are at least a 7 my dear. So fuck those lesbos too!
I chose to opt out of that feature. I’d probably be ranked “too hideous” to get a number, lol!
Don’t put too much stock into POF. I had one person tell me that what was wrong with my profile is that I smoke, I’m an alcoholic (because I drink 3+ times a week) and that I occasionally dabble in illegal drugs.
Fuck ‘em all Romi!
LOL. Thank goodness you don’t take that stuff seriously. When you think about it, it’s probably all women doing the voting who just pretend they are men and they vote you low because they’re jealous and they don’t want you stealing all the men away from that at Plenty O’Fish (sorry but the name of that place just sounds like a fast food joint to me).
I have 2 things to say. First, change your picture. It’s not a very flattering picture of you, your face is too shiny, either from the flash or you have a lot of oil on your face and you should powder it a bit before taking a new picture. Second thing, a lot of the time when I browse through some of those websites that rate people, I just go through to look at them and not actually rate them. So I skip through and hit whatever button comes first. That could be a high number or a low number. Perhaps some of these gentlemen did the same thing?
You are hilarious. And your picture is fine. There are probably better pictures, but that one is fine. And the ratings are BS because you should be way higher than that. Turds.
I’m sorry… Plenty of Fish? That’s seriously the name of a dating site?
Don’t pay it any mind at all. Any site named Plenty of Fish is waaaayy below you. It might as well be named Nowhere else to turn, The Rejected Spoils, or Circus-Sideshow Amore.
Any site blatantly & desperately advertising the bottom of the barrel is not one for which you should be signing up. You need to be looking for a Happily-Ever-After.com† or a Fairybook-Story.com†.
The guys on this site are simply the rejects of the dating world. They’re not even technically the other “fish” in the sea, they’re squids & sponges. They only try to knock you down so that you won’t realize that you’re so very high above them.
You’re a perfect 10, friend, and don’t you forget it.
† – unknown if these sites actually exist… sorry.
You should read the plenty of fish results as coming from a place that smells exactly like that. A free dating site? You’d have better luck finding love and honesty in a whorehouse.
HAPPY DIWALI ROMI!
I have two theories:
One it is really jealous bitties pretending to be men who are voting.
or
The men give a score based on how much tatas you show.
BTW, there is a nice Indian boy across the street from me new home. Drawbacks are that he still lives with his mommy and daddy and he acts 15 instead of 30. (yes, I am still holding onto hope that you will be my D-i-L)
ouch. i would not even be brave enough to put my picture up at some rating page. are you crazy? ;0 see now thats what i think. i think its a bunch of girls that are voting at other (way more pretty girls) sites and give them the ugly stamp so they can feel more attractive themselves. there are no guys actually voting on your picture, its only crazy chicks that are jealous because you are looking good! so dont you worry about a thing!
I’m sorry if I’m late for this and don’t even know if you celebrate it – but Happy Diwali.
I just realized today. D’uh.
I bet you should include a Nacho Libre quote in your profile: “I’m not listening to you, you’re crazy!” Get out of the pool Romi, and may your quest for schlong-goodness in the 3D world be more succesful
I think you’re hot. Enough said.
Matt: you’re right, I should test out some category-5 super-charged whore-pictures and see how the results change, hahaha…thanks man!
Justin: awww, thanks dude! I like getting good scores based on writing connections, it’s the kind of thing that makes me feel like I can develop a foot-fungus and not feel bad about it…yippee!
David: thanks, and it’s really encouraging for borderline-repulsive people to know that there’s a dateable fan-base for them as well!
Red: a 12.7!?!?! That’s insane; if I’m a 12.7 to you, then it’s like you are constantly picturing our lesbian encounter in your head..lol
Nigel: hahaha…maybe I should have put up the Flannel PJ’s pic; it shows that I like to have a good time, but I’m also down-to-earth…lol
Pure Evyl: beersex.net?!!? Does that mean how hot I would look to a drunk person? LOL..I’ll have to check that out!
Daddy Dan: LMAO…you are such a pig!
Hahaha…but you’re a guy; you know, I suppose I wasn’t intending to put up some slut-bag picture, but maybe girls need to post that as a starting point of getting attention…which is just sad quite frankly!!
GYL: hahaha…thanks, and I really do hope they have webbed-toes so I can point and laugh at them
crisitunity: well I won’t be screwing them but I know what you mean! And I also won’t be going blonde at any point in my life, so that cuts off the blonde-fetish dudes…now who’s left? (lol)
dobeman: and yet another oinker from the “pig gallery”…lol..I understand that a picture is the first filter to contact on a dating site, but to have “boob” size as one of the main decision factors? Well I suppose it confirms everything I ever thought about guys…haha..
Taoist Biker: holding out for topless pics!???! I wouldn’t be surprised that this is what the young guys are after; let me just dip into my personal archive of “topless pics” and see what I can find (riiighhtt…)
omegaradium: thanks, and if I wasn’t taking these results lightly, I wouldn’t have written this post and thus subjected myself to further judgment at the hands of you lovely people
lonelycanadiangirl: “too hideous” to get a rating? Hardly my dear; it’s like (most of the dudes in this thread said: “show the jugs, or get the fuck out”…that’s the general consensus for men who are doing the rating…in which case: moving along!..
teeni: you know I never thought about the female-trickery, but I wonder if that would work what with you having to state if you’re male or female when you make an account; or maybe these girls have two accounts, i.e. one for when they want to ge a “dude”, and one in which they pretend to be a dude to dish out bad-ratings…lol..is this starting to sound like a “conspiracy thoery”?
Kerplar: thank you for pointing out the excessive face-oil that must be hindering my chances; it’s the damndest thing, but my face just leaks of that stuff! Like sometimes I’ll be out having lunch, with my face hanging, and then I’ll suddenly say: “Never mind! I won’t be needing the olive oil for this bread anymore…”…damndest thing indeed..
maleesha: thanks There are definitely better pictures and I thought about different pictures, but in those pictures I was either looking obviously drunk, or holding two drinks in my hands…I just didn’t want to give the first impression of” “easy girl who likes to get drunk and have fun”, let that be the second impression, hahaha
Adam: well that is a very sweet and kind message, thank you!
PS: I am SO going to google around to see if there is a “fairybook-story.com” type website…that might solve everything!
ian in hamburg: you make a nearly irrefutable argument, but one of my friends has been on some very pleasant dates which were as a result of that site…hmm…maybe you never know…you know? (but so far I do know..and the results are ugly..uglier than my picture even
)
dragonfly: aww thanks! I can still hear the fireworks outside
betme: OH MY GOSH IT”S YOU!!! I haven’t seen you around in ages! I thought you’d left and taken your son along with you!!…
PS: hope everything’s well; Have you posted? I’ll check out your site soon!
nieschu: hmm…I really like your theory, and because of it I will start to randomly kick women in the street whenever I see them (in case their the ones that gave these bad scored); that’ll teach them!!!
teeni: hahaha…no problem, you’re not late, just in time
Duffboy: After all those votes, I DO need to assure the world that I’m not crazy, ’cause those numbers don’t lie you know?…crikey.
Billy: well isn’t that a great? ‘Cause I’ve seen your pictures and I think you’re hot too! Isn’t it fun when it works out like that! (lol)
PS: if any of my reply-comments sound grammatically challenged, please note that it was past my official bed-time when I wrote these.
Thank you.
haaahhaha! i sooooo LOL’d at your comment to my uhh, comment
even the dog was like, “what the fuck you laughin’ at woman?!!”
EDIT: after brushing my teeth, washing my face and waking the hell up, I realized that half my comments were not only grammatically-challenged, but also completely incoherent…I’ve fixed what I could in my still-tired state, but the real lesson here is: SLEEP MORE….speaking of which…
You know what this photo needs? A kitten. Kittens make everyone look hotter on the internet.
I happen to know for a fact that you are sportin’ the hotness, and no retarded poll can convince me otherwise.
Pfffft, here’s your breakdown. The younger dudes don’t know a proper hot chick when they see one because the majority of them are still looking for that skinny blonde sorority girl and haven’t figured out that a) the majority of them aren’t interested or b) haven’t yet actually attained one of them long enough to realize that they are, for the most part, not up to the hype. Your slightly older fellows are wiser. The much older fellows are probably just being smart, cause really, you’d want to retch if some 52 year old came knocking on your e-door.
romi….i am a girl. you would rank so much higher than a five on a scale for me. i am sure the less amount of clothes you have on the higher the ranking. just a thought.
I think your a very attractive woman. I don’t know what’s up in the world today. It seems if your not platinum blonde, had breast implants and aren’t the so called flavor of the month then people think your unattractive. But I wouldn’t let it get you down, probably most of the guys who did the votes, probably wouldn’t know attractive if it bit them on the ass. Plus sometimes people are just cruel and trying to mess with other peoples emotions. Plus it doesn’t help that hollywood, the media, fashion magazines, radio ads you name it, think they have their fingers on the pulse of what’s beautiful. And it’s their fault because of the kinda woman they promote as hot, that most women today have low self-esteem. And don’t believe their as beautiful as they are. Down with the fashion industry as far as i’m concerned. Anyways sorry to rant, but your beautiful, and I think all women are. Hope this helps you to feel better, and have a wonderful day.
First off, you’re not hideous.
Secondly, I’m so unfreakingbelievably glad I never stumbled across that particular “bonus” of POF — I’m sure my rating would have been low enough that I would have bludgeoned myself to death with my laptop to end my own misery… lol
That poll is all full of shit.
Honey. I went on the site and was off in less than 45 min cancelled the account. I’m 38 and someone told me to go on, try it out. I didn’t see the rating until I went in and clicked it. I had a woman rate me a 9 and the men averaged 7, with 8.2 high and 5.2 the low, I think there was a 3. I said to myself, I’m letting these scumbags rate me. No, not happening. People rate on what kind of woman they like or man. If men like blondes, they rate them high. If they don’t prefer brunette they rate low. I only had a head shot, I refuse to show anything, for free anyway…..LOL
Honey, I can tell by your features, you are a 9, 10 being perfect wihich no one is. That pic looks fuzzy and cannot see you clear. I got bad vibes which is why I cancelled.
Relax. People tend to vote low on that website for the sole reason that perhaps you didn’t respond to their emails. Don’t take it to heart; it’s obvious it bothered you to some degree. You should know better than to care about a ratings system on a website as pathetic as plentyoftoads. This blog is also a plea for verification you are attractive. I think you already know the answer to that. Keep in mind, that you should go easy on the make-up. Make-up does a wonderful job of covering up what a woman truly looks like. So I cannot give you an honest rating one way or the other.
Blogs are one of the most ridiculous advances within the internet. They waste valuable search time within google for example, when amateurs like yourself write useless garble. It’s more difficult for an end user to do a valid search for a topic of interest without wading through horseshit such as this.
HI IP ADDRESS: 64.231.91.183 FROM LONDON, ONTARIO!!
HIIIIIIIIIIIII!!!
(this is in reference to the two most recent comments on this blog post)
So first your name is “John Gillins”, who offers up some serious and matter-of-fact and “thank god you came along” advice for this blog post, after 11 minutes of sitting on this page thinking up what clever thing you could possibly say. THEN you proceed to my Personal Info page and hang out there for 52 seconds (thank you by the way), only to RETURN to this blog post for 8 minutes and 1 second, a time during which your name somehow changed to Bret Yerman, your alter ego that HATES blogs and how they interfere with your LEGIT Google searches…EVEN though you spent 19 minutes and 20 seconds cruising around here of your own free will. Hmmm…
So YAY for you and your split personalities! You are my entertainment for the day!!!!
HAH! Go Romi!
Wow. I think you need to come back down to earth. Where do you live? there are lots of 10s out there. Just go to lake havasu or Boise, ID! I think your comment about ‘normal guys’ versus “Celebrities” is the ley to your issue… You really believe that celebrity status makes a guy hot, so you think that a normal guy whho works for a living could never measure up! Amazing… When I see a women who is a ten it matters not whether she is a famous model or serving my burger at jack-in-the-box! There are PLENTY beautiful sexy 10 girls out there who are not rich or famous. same with men. Get over your dissapointment with your rating. maybe you should go to the gym
As always, a super-supreme pleasure to get common-sense life advice from common-sense people who are intelligent enough to know how serious my blog really is (unlike all the others, who think it might be non-sensical, based on those silly “Humour” and “Sarcasm” tags…but shhh! Don’t tell them, I like that only you and I know how serious I was being with regards to this topic….YAY you! Thanks Mark, you’re a dear!!!!!
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4/10 definitely isn’t accurate based upon that photo.